7 Stay At Home Moms Share Why It’s All Worth It
Being a stay at home mom requires sacrifices. The first sacrifice we make are the careers we give up to be home with our children. I personally was at a real high point in my career. I worked for a group of ophthalmic surgeons. I managed and trained 50 employees and was an authority in my field. I even did speeches at statewide academies. Now I manage a toddler and the closest I get to public speaking is saying “take that out of your mouth” at the store 50 times.
We also sacrifice most of our time. You thought you never had time for anything when you worked? Being a stay at home mom seems to be an agreement that you will do all the house work and child rearing things 24/7. You don’t clock out. There are no days off, and vacations are trips to the grocery store alone (which happens about as often as an actual vacations).
Lets not forget the sacrifice we make in wearing bras from 10 years ago while the kiddos get new shoes every 3 months. Or the lost hope of eating our own dinner while it is still warm. Remember when we had hobbies? Yeah, to be a stay at home mom comes with more sacrifices than I can list. But it also comes with so many perks! These perks often come in the form of special little moments. Moments that are easy to take for granted if you allow yourself to get too buried under the sacrifices to see them. On the other hand, if you make a point of remembering those moments, and cherishing them they can make all those sacrifices totally worth it. I spoke to other fellow stay at home moms and asked them to share a moment with me (and you) that was special to them and made their own sacrifices worth it.
Here are the amazing answers I received!
“Just last night my son had a 102 degree fever. He wanted me to stay with him in his room. Though I got very little sleep, I was happy to be able to give him just what he needed” ~Jenna (3 y/o twins)
“My kids know i have heart issues. When I’m having a bad day my oldest (age 5) will say a prayer for me. Its her innocence & faith that really hit me. If i had faith when i prayed… My middle child (4 in September) will come & hug me when i need it most. I can only hope to be like her to others. My sons (age 2) (4 months) can always make me laugh! I could be having a terrible day and they make me smile with whatever they can. I sometimes feel like i’m failing as a mom…then I’m reminded by small things…God made me their mom & they love me. There is nothing i can do…at their ages… That would make them love me less. They are easily forgiving & loving” ~Sarabeth (5 y/o, 3 y/o, 2 y/o, 4 mo)
“Watching my girls grow their language skills everyday has been so rewarding. Seeing the baby’s eyes light up when she sees me every morning.” ~Kelly ( 2 y/o twins, 6 mo)
“My son is in speech therapy. He is reluctant to learn sign language, but I haven’t given up. We were at one of his speech therapy appointments and he was playing with toys, and his therapist said “tap, tap, tap” and he said “ta ta ta” (like mimicking her)…it was the first time he had ever done something like that. I was so proud, it took everything to hold back tears…definitely a huge moment.
There are days when I doubt myself and wonder if I’m doing it all wrong…then I remember that and how far he’s come, and I can’t help but be so grateful to be able to stay at home with him and his sister so I don’t miss a moment. It makes it all worth it!”~ Emily (2 y/o)
“My baby has been a absolute delight today. We’ve been connecting all day and when it was time for her nap she let me rock her to sleep in the rocking chair. I wish I could hold her all day. I laid her down in her crib and she’s sound asleep” ~ Valerie (10 mo)
“Being the one to catch every tear and smile, even if sometimes the tears were my own” ~ Carly (6 y/o)
” My son is very busy and hardly sits still. It means that any cuddle time is rare and very special. Sometimes he will grab a book from his shelves and bring it to me to read. Then he climbs into my lap and helps turn the pages. I cherish each and every time! ~ Courtney (16 mo)
I wish I could tell you that remembering why we do it all will mean you never get burnt out again. Or that the tiny pang of resentment wont rear it’s head from time to time. What I can say is that by consciously taking the time to be grateful for the moments and memories we get that working moms don’t makes it easier to put those feelings into perspective and work through them.
You are a great mom! And you have taken on a challenge that is all about the long game, so hang in there! What is one of your moments? I would love for you to share it with us all in the comments!